May 24th, 2010
One of the lessons I have learnt over the years is to stop expecting – it saves a lot of heartache.
You know the typical scenario – you expect something to happen, or someone to do something, and things don’t turn out even remotely as you were hoping. The resultant disappointment leads to all sorts of feelings, and even actions, that tend to make matters worse. We become angry and frustrated. We feel let down. Yet this is all of our own making.
If you don’t expect anything you learn to accept whatever unfolds. When you stop judging you open yourself up to what is instead of what could be. This is a far happier place to be and can be full of wonderful surprises.
I was reminded of all this when I heard Jake Shimabukuro say in his TEDxTokyo presentation:
One of the things I love about being a ukulele player is that no matter where I go in the world to play, the audience has such low expectations. [This is] a huge plus for sure.
What this man can do with a four stringed instrument is remarkable. He is definitely worth listening to. I was moved and inspired by Jake’s passion and skill. Pre-judging anyone or anything rarely leads you down the path you think it will.